8th of Movember

November 9th, 2014


I suppose you could call this my Bah Humbug face, don’t really have any reason to be making the face, certainly not that upset about anything especially not Christmas, guess I am just trying to be different bit of variety.  Before the month is out I can have as many faces as there are emoticons…could be my next challenge, eh.

I have noticed either consciously or subconsciously that I have been stroking my face a lot more, not the noticing but the stroking is either conscious or subconscious, of course.  It’s weird and strange since I am now over a week not shaving and I am noticing all sorts of things, the feel of it, the way my jowls feel scratchy when I bend my head down, the look in the mirror, the colour of the hair itself, the patches where it grows more vigorously than others, why it does that, do I like the look, does anyone else…and so I go on strange experience but then I think I am only doing it for Movember and then we’re done.  I do also have days where I argue with myself that since I am not following strictly the Movember rules as laid down nor getting sponsor money, what is to stop me just shaving it off???!!!

Pride, commitment, integrity, self belief, self discovery, the challenge, the reason for even entering into this, loads of things some intrinsic to me others bolted on for a season, will pass as the blade does over the features soon to be erased as will their meaning, the others are carved and etched into the very core of my being noted in the wrinkles and lines on my face and sought from deep within my eyes, never passing always present.

The jury is out from me personally on the features growing out not my chin, time will tell or perhaps it will only solidify what I already feel!?

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7th of Movember

November 8th, 2014


This is my tired eyes look, notice the chin is much whiter, still doesn’t look like I even have a moustache hence why I am letting it all grow makes more of an impact and shows. Not liking it though after a full week of not shaving, every time I look in the mirror I don’t see me looking back weird…

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6th of Movember

November 6th, 2014


Another day another whisker, or three, you can get a sense in this picture how long it takes me to grow anything of worth. It has to be said it is coming on all be it slowly. I run my hand over my chin and jaw line and it is getting past the prickly stage and more towards the soft stage, or perhaps that is more because of the bald patches I have noticed as I investigate the parts other beards don’t seem to reach.

I still don’t have any growth to attach the facial hair up past my ears to my hair line so this could be seriously ridiculous in a week or so time as it gets longer and more prominent.  As I look in the mirror I am somewhat glad I am choosing to grow not just a moustache since I can barely make that out, the most prominent and noticeable growth is on the chin, although sometimes when I look at myself I just see someone who hasn’t shaved for nearly a week and to be honest really should. But then is that not the point of Movember, its not supposed to look rugged and hewn it is supposed to look ridiculous and just obvious that you are always clean shaven and for some reason you stopped and it really isn’t a good look for you and that prompts questions and debates and raises the awareness…

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Remember, Remember the 5th of Movember

November 5th, 2014


Well it’s Guy Fawkes, bonfire night and the night sky has been lit up, brilliant night for it cold, still, cloudless, haven’t been out this year perhaps we will another time. On the plus side Honey has been pretty good with all the noise, normally she would have been firmly camped under our bed for the duration shivering, perhaps the dwindling ability to hear has its advantages.

I am only taking the pictures as a visual catalogue, being light hair you can barely see it in pictures in the flesh it is better, well not for Mrs it isn’t. Really feel the hairs bristling as I run my fingers over my chin and face, the kids still think it’s hilariously funny.  Did find out that the place I normally get my hair cut does deal with trimming beards as well so that’s helpful. Having never done this much growth before I had to ask, not that I need any trimming for a while but good to be prepared.

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4th of Movember

November 4th, 2014


I think I look a bit gormless in this shot…coming along all be it at a snails pace. Interesting people are starting to notice people I meet regularly but not everyday, not sparked any conversations as yet but time will come.

Had to laugh just the other day as we remarked that I had just spent about £17 odd pounds on new blades and a new bottle of after shave balm just at the start of 4 and a bit weeks of not shaving, oh the irony.

Being blond or should I say light, it is only just becoming noticeable, not sure if you can see in the pictures but it is definitely not as noticeable as men who have darker hair growth, still I should look on the bright side at least it’s not an uncharacteristic hue of red!

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3rd of Movember

November 3rd, 2014


Well day 3 how you doing? I’m good, really feel like I have bidirectional hair growth now, I’m not so excited about it as it is still really patchy.  You probably can’t make out from the photo, but here’s a brief rundown…

Top lip – even throughout and dark in colour depending on which way the light hits it.
Bottom lip – same as top perhaps a little light on coverage but across full extent of lips surface.
Chin – good overall coverage this is where it is most evident and good coverage.
Jaw line – the chin coverage extends half way along the jaw line then peaters out, at least consistently on both sides.
Jowls (under chin) – immediately beneath jaw bone good after that gets a bit patchy.  I have a childhood scar right on my chin underneath so nothing grows on that patch anyway so at a disadvantage to kick off.
Sideburns – strangely but not surprisingly almost non existent. Another reason why I have never attempted bearded status, never in my life and not for lack of trying in my formative years has anything of note grown from the hairline past me ears, depressing really.

Comments from the family…Wife Yve says I am getting a bit prickly, did I mention she is not keen on the beard or any facial hair.  Girly girl adores and loves it, was touching my face and lip like a baby explores a father face when something is different just to make sure it is him.  Wee man at the dinner table tonight, “I don’t mean to be rude daddy but you’re beard is the same colour as the side of your head is, light!”

So Abbott household is very divided on the subject of Father Abbott facial hair…

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2nd of Movember

November 2nd, 2014


This is what could commonly be known as the, ‘see I do have some growth there’ pose, usually postulated by prepubescent boys in the school playground as they jostle to puff their chests in manly prowess.  Not usually the pose of a forty something who has nothing to prove to anyone…

I was right though even at this early stage you can just about make out the whites are going to put on a brave fight against the colours. It’s only stubble but girly girl loves it, me I’m not sold at this early stage, too patchy for my liking, will reserve judgement until a few more days in.

Question for the beardies among you, how do you cope with that little bit on each bottom corner of your mouth that as it grows you can curl the lips inward and almost chew the hairs there?  This is one of the things that annoyed me when I grew a goatee, I can already feel myself getting irritated. I will probably have some of my friends saying we don’t you’re just weird and probably agree it is why I have not till now grown facial hair and indeed should not beyond this month.

Progress is progress though been this long before when I have been ill in the past few years so not bothered just now come mid week when it has been the longest I haven’t shaved in many years then I will probably begin to get annoyed and grumpy about it, it’s a challenge and an experience.

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1st of Movember

November 1st, 2014


Well here we are November already where has the year gone. Moved a lot recently now really settled and although no never have I am going to participate in Movember.

Now I have some reasons for doing this and some caveats. This is a global thing where men across the world grow a moustache to highlight men’s health, why, because we as men (generalisation coming) are very poor patients.  We get a cold and call it man flu, we discover something not quite right and we feel the need to man up and just muscle through and ignore it,  as a result men, women and children are losing husbands, fathers, brothers, uncles, partners and friends to illnesses and conditions that if we just man up and visit our doctors and discuss these early warning signs early enough could be prevented.

The other reasons I am doing it is because I have never really grown facial hair, not seriously. I did at one point some years since past grow a goatee quite well.  My wife doesn’t like facial hair so that has been a big part of my not doing so, so partly I simply want to see if I can, will it turn out like so many of my friends to be ginger and not my natural hair colour, although at the moment my hair colour is turning grey so that raises another question will it just be white??

I am nor following strictly the rules of Movember as that states we must be clean shaven on the 1st (last shaved morning of 31st) and also we are told to grow and groom a moustache only, no goatee no full beard (going for the full bhoona beard) I will have it groomed and perhaps once I have a week or so growth will perhaps get creative but for the moment day 1 and we’re gonna see how this grows.

Will also try to commit to posting daily selfies taken at roughly same time to document progress. Join with me in the fun side men I personally will look very different and not feel very comfortable but then it’s a small price to pay to highlight a more serious issue.

Father Abbott soon to look like Father Abraham…

Business is booming

September 19th, 2013

While the economy is still trying to recover and find it’s feet I am pushing the boundaries, both personally and in many other ways.  Having officially started the Kinnell Kreations business over a year ago, registered for VAT dealt with HMRC for NI being self employed etc, you may recall I fell quite ill.  Well 12 months on and after much gnashing of teeth and personal reflection Kinnell Kreations is getting a new lease of life, or should that be I am getting my butt in gear, whichever way you want to word it, things are moving forward.

The whole grand idea behind it was several, provide for the family, be more available to the family, work for someone that shares my values and principles (that last one was more about the last company I worked for I left because I struggled with practice’s and management, actually in fairness the present company I work for is showing similar signs of lack of core values, another reason why this is being pushed) enjoy life really, doing something I am good at and can achieve well in.  So Kinnell Kreations is finally becoming a business that is doing something and it feels good.

I have been working a lot on the background infrastructure, website, marketing materials sales material etc, at the same time I have been out the last few weeks in Bingham and surrounding handing out fliers/business cards and generally introducing myself and the business, you know what the early signs are really positive.

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7 Year Itch…

August 24th, 2013

Before I get numerous phone calls I am not talking about my marriage with Yve here, the title is deliberate.  I am happily married and have past the ‘7 year itch’ now twice and still not intending to scratch, as you will read this too Yve, NEVER WILL.

As you will see from my Adoption Timeline here we have had girly girl and wee man for over 2 years now and this is quite momentous.  It means that they have both been with us for more time than they were with their foster carers previously, while that might not seem a long time; in the life of an adopted child that can trigger things subconsciously that we can’t see.  Yve and I have been preparing for this significant time not so much literally but more consciously just trying to be aware of it and what it might mean and perhaps what the kids could react with.  We have been mindful that we don’t bring something on that isn’t there but yet be alert as to what could be.

Scratch that itchOver the last few weeks, month or so even we have noticed a change especially in wee man but also girly girl that might be conceived as they are getting unconsciously restless, an ‘are we moving again’ type of awareness.  This is not perpetuated by anything happening in our lives but perhaps by an unconscious time trigger.  Difficult to handle with a 5 year old who at the best of times can’t express what is going on in his head, never mind with a pre hormonal girl who is more than likely displaying those pending illustrious and tumultuous hormonal years, yes my musings may be filled with how do I cope with 2 pmt times in the house, it has taken me 20 years to get used to handling Mrs, miss will be a whole new ball game.

Suffice to say we are not sure what if anything is causing this recent change in behaviours, as one friend recently commented perhaps they are just more settled and secure and free and able to express and kick off as they are doing, that should be a positive and it is, although admittedly in the midst of another slanging match or heated attitude busting moment it doesn’t feel very positive.  It could also be…wait for it… just being a parent to 2 children, girl of 9 and boy of 5, put aside all the adopted labels and history, perhaps, just perhaps we are simply watching and learning what it means to be in a different phase and stage with our kids, like every other parent on the face of the planet has or is or will experience.  After all why should we have it any different to any other family?

Feeling stretched as a Father.